But with this is also a relaxing of that walking-on-eggshells behavior.
Chris and Kara are more open about what bothers them, especially if they are living together and can’t use distance to water down their irritations.
No, you don’t want to emotionally slap someone up the side of the head on the second date because he talked with his mouth full, but if this is truly one of your pet peeves don’t hold off till 3 years after the wedding to bring it up.
The issue isn't about chewing and food, but about bringing honesty and realness into the relationship from the start so the person gets a true sense of who you really are and what is important to you.
Here is where partners begin to see patterns – that that crazy drunken night and intense argument wasn't a one-time event after all, or that your partner’s wanting to spend 6 days with her family at Christmas is part of a bigger pattern of pulling in relatives anytime she has more than 2 days off from work.
It’s an evolutionally thing; nature is telling you it’s time to stop bonding and swooning about each other, get back to work, start focusing on building a family.Finally, this is the time that the couple starts to have serious conversations about the future.Here they talk about priorities, whether to have kids or not or how many, whether to focus on careers or whether a job is just a job and they rather raise chickens as a hobby.Here is where what each person is particularly sensitive to – criticism, control, lack of appreciation, not getting enough attention – begins to stir: Chris starts to feel micromanaged, or Kara feels abandoned and is increasingly resentful of his working weekends.Here is where couples can begin to argue about who is more hurt, who is too sensitive, arguments that can seem endless or destructive. Often by this time in the relationship real-life experiences become part of the mix and challenge.The challenge is being honest with yourself, taking the time to reflect and sort through your true feelings, not compromising or watering down your life.