Healthy Recovery, Healthy Relationships Most recovering addicts aren’t strangers to therapy and, as a result, have spent a lot of time working on themselves and their relationships.
They have learned critical relationship skills, including how to identify, process and communicate their emotions and to set personal boundaries while respecting the lines drawn by others.
Men and women learn a lot in recovery, not just about staying sober but living a happy, satisfying life.
They don’t need to be taken care of; they learned how to do that for themselves.
In the end, it’s a very personal decision that you have to make: Is dating a recovering addict a deal-breaker for you? My partner and I are both recovering addicts-- we've been together for years now.He's tried and failed over the past year to clean up on his own, and has checked himself into a 5-month rehab program (inpatient except on weekends) that does non stop therapy, alternative therapies, and exercise. I admire him for that and we have a good laugh and seen good together.I was hoping that after the program we could slowly start to date. The question is, I am on anti-depressants for when I was being bully at work.I am worried that he's not stable enough, though, and that the relationship won't stand a chance until he's really back on his feet (including finding a new job). I get the time has passed but your situation is interesting. One year sobriety in my book is strongly recommended. I mentioned this one evening as we were discussion his issues and recovery.If an addict cannot handle being sober for one year, I would fear for your physical safety and your sanity if you were dating him as caring for someone who continues to relapse is exhausting. I said to him that I didn't mind going through it as I came out of it as a stronger person. I recently met someone and it was going quite well.I've seen more relationships fail, in the rooms, than succeed.