When you’re in a committed relationship together, it’s natural to have a greater expectation of involvement in your partner’s life.After all, you’re a team; what they do materially affects too and vice versa. It’s understandable that you’re going to be one of the highest priorities in their lives, that they’re going to put their relationship with you (and yours with them) ahead of others.When you’re just friends, however, that all changes.You may be tight with one another, but you don’t have the same kind of relationship that you did before.One of the things that people tend to forget – especially in a long-term relationship – is that you develop new habits and routines that center around having your ex in your life.Regardless of whether you lived together or lived apart, you will have into certain patterns that are dependent on working in tandem with another person. It’s easier and healthier to start a friendship when you’ve had the time and and distance to get some perspective on your old relationship.
There are also people who win the Mega-Millions lottery with a single ticket.
Some don’t care about witnessing ex’s displays of affection with their new snugglebunny and for others, it’s pure unadulterated nightmare fuel.
This goes both ways, by the way; just because you’re totally fine with knowing everything (and everyone) your ex gets up to doesn’t mean that they’re going to feel the same way about you.
It’s tempting to assume that, seeing as you’ve been swapping bodily fluids before, that there’s no reason you can’t be as open with one another as you were before you broke up. Just because you were super close before doesn’t mean that you can maintain that same level of total disclosure that you had now that you’re no longer together.
Remember how I said you’re going to be a different person once you’ve broken up?